Tuesday, November 03, 2009

something to take note of.

a long entry. love this after i read it from ilyani FB note. so just gonna put up here to share.

From Ilayni FB note:

Blog-hopped earlier today and found that most of my friends and favourite bloggers been putting up entries about that holy subject called Marriage.. and also about that frowned-upon activity most men love -- Cheating.

Perhaps they too have watched the re-runs of Oprah (hah, Astro memang dah tak ada new show kot, asyik ulang2 setiap hari. Pini, TAKE NOTE! :P) and felt horrified by the fact that 1 out of 3 men cheat on their wives. If you think relationship/courting days is already hard work, well, marriage simply means harder work and more effort. Being married doesn't mean it is going to be all bed of roses with infinite rays of sunshine, darlings. It is about two entirely different persons living under the same roof, sharing lives, learning so many new and unknown things about each other, plus, having to cope with the predictability of unforeseen circumstances (such as kids, for instance!).

It seems like a trend nowadays that couples tend to focus more on the wedding day rather than the married life itself. More preparation goes into the celebration than the actual union which will be following closely afterward. People seem to be blinded in their realisation of 'dream wedding'. What they don't know is, realising a 'dream marriage' is way harder than that. When I was single, I had all the time, money and energy in the world for myself, and myself alone. But now being almost 2 years married, I can hardly find a "Me" time having to juggle so many things at once. I remember the days when all I ever ate was take-aways and Jusco's prepacked sushi. My evenings were spent at the gym almost on a daily basis. My weekends were filled with late night hangouts with friends and bapakikans (HA HA HA). That was all in the past. Now everything has flipped a complete 180 degrees. I am more of a homebody, who usually will stay at home doing endless house chores and also 3-times-a-day cooking for a very, very fussy eater. Who says marrying a chef is easy?

I had a very hard time trusting my husband. He, on the other hand, had a very hard time to be up-front, knowing how jealous I could be. It was a difficult learning process for both of us in the first year. In fact, this learning process still continues, will occur over time and hopefully matures as we go through different challenges together. So far, I am glad that I have never regretted seeing his face first thing in the morning. I am glad that I still find his ketiak and kentut so wangi. I have never regretted making that decision to spend the rest of my life with him. We made mistakes along the way, we surely will do some again, but we have learnt how to overcome issues TOGETHER. Selflessness plays a major role in any marriage. Someday, you may not feel like you are in love with your partner. But you have to make it work because it is a feeling that needs to be nurtured everyday.

If you can call your boyfriend diabetic names like Sayang, Honey, Baby prior to being married, why not address your husband the same? If you can smooch and display your affection publicly dengan beromen sesuka hati before it was even legal, why walk a distance from your partner after that? A very close friend of mine said she couldn't see herself tying the knot because it is almost impossible to imagine herself living with the SAME PERSON every single day. It gets boring, she said. Of course I told her, she's not ready to be attached just yet. We can't force this thing, it comes naturally - eventually. Hence the saying "Belum sampai jodoh". Having said that, to all mothers and makciks, please don't throw your children into 'forced' marriages. Stop asking them stupid questions (e.g Bila nak kawin? Mak nak cucu cepat. etc..) which might lead them into making spontaneous, unthought decision which will then lead to an unhappy married life which will end in divorce or worse, infidelity.

Because really, it is indeed hard work and it must work both ways. I am well-aware that it is still a long, long way to go for me and Iwan. So, good luck to myself and also to everyone who is getting married. Soon, or otherwise, it doesn't matter. :)

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Monday, November 02, 2009

it is just too much here.

mum asked me "What do you think after everything settle, we migrate to Australia?". i know she have that yearn like i do, to migrate off to somewhere, anywhere, out of where we are now, singapore. i wouldn't say that i don't love it here, sometimes i do. but at times i really feel i don't belong here, it's getting too over crowded, life is getting difficult & a little boring too at times. maybe i'm not that patriotic. but of course to migrate off to another country that you don't know nuts about how to live there will be difficult unless you went there a few times & got to know the culture, the people, the way of life. i don't know maybe in the future i can think about all of that. cause honestly if i am able to raise my family in a much better place then here one day, i would do so, so that they will have a much better life that i never be able to have. but this is the 2nd time that mum asked me the question about migrating. one day, maybe i will make that happen for her & for us. but how can i leave others i love behind? in life sometimes we have to make sacrifices. don't we?

Saturday, October 31, 2009

i don't want to go to sleep

is it because it's the halloween month, or am i just paranoid? this whole week, yes the WHOLE WEEK! i have been having strange & crazy nightmares, that at times don't involve anyone i know. thankfully. the nightmares are not always the same or linked together. but it scares me so much that it gets hard to fall asleep now. one nightmare was i dreamt that i got stung by swarm of bees that i actually could feel i was really getting stung & struggle in my sleep cause i felt the tingles like there were really bees attacking me & my hands & legs we kicking air & yet i can't make myself wake up even tho' i know i was half awake. it's just weird. the whole week nothing but nightmares. no sweet peaceful dreamy dreams, but yet crazy strange nightmares. is this somehow a sign that i'm going to die soon? *touch wood* someday i will feel the sense of security when i am having bad nightmares & know that you will be there by my side to make me feel better. i crave for your embrace.

ready, set, go!

time to do heavy research & think of ideas. i will be doing D&AD 2010 Competition Brief on Quaker Oats Packaging Design for their new upcoming product. packaging design eh? i won't say that i suck at it, i did get a good grade for both packaging & brand packaging. it is just that, it take alot of work to do packaging design, cause i have to take note of all the little little details. but im quite a sucker for details haha, so somehow i can do this. & i'm kind of enthusiastic about doing it. that's a good sign right? cause when i saw the brief i know that somehow i will end up doing that proposals out of the other 2 i gave. so now it's time to focus & go for it all the way for the next suffering 4 months. first critique is on the 10th, 11th & 12th. will be praying to god that this 4 months i'm given the strength & will & confidence throughout. must start thinking & act professionally about my work. & i probably have to eat alot of Quaker Oats product from now on. hope the good benefits of eating Oats help me with getting ideas. i love oats, you love oats, we love oats!

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Wednesday, October 28, 2009

it's getting hot in here...

mr. boyfriend like to say that my eyes can't stop looking at 'hot' guys. but seriously, singapore have 'hot' guys? are you sure.... well maybe there are some of those guys out there or a small tiny group of guys, who don't have to try so hard to look 'hot' cause they are naturally 'hot'. it depends how you view someone you would give the term of 'hot'. but anyway i decided that it would be fun if once in a while i blog about utterly nonsense or something bimbotic. so here's my list of 'hot' guys. & the list goes on & on i tell you.

1st on the list:
Michael Buble
(did i say i love his sexy voice? not to mention man in a suit & tie)

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Tuesday, October 27, 2009

serious 'shingz'

i'm having a major headache thinking about FYP. i believe everyone is at lost. but at the very least i manage to find 3 proposals that i'm interested in doing. but of course i will have to choose one that i really want to work on for the next 4 months. i still can't set up my mind yet as to which to choose out of the 3. the proposals are basically for fyp & also it is a competition brief for D&AD 2010. yes i will try to finish it up as my FYP & submit it for D&AD. i would love to try my luck & submit my work for an international competition. why should we be afraid of such competition right?! should we?

this year i can't have the time to submit any of my works for Noise Singapore 2009, been busy with SIP & now FYP. so seriously i don't have the time to do anything of my own. & my brain is about to explode cause i can't do any of my own things. The Swinging Monkeys project is still hanging loose. i feel like scraping it & come up with a new look for it. will be giving a thought to that. i think it will be a very very busy months ahead. i just hope i don't lose my balance & fall out. & ya green day fever is in till the cure on 14 Jan 2010!

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